How to Make Your Dreams Come True
How To Make Your Dreams Come True
We often discuss our dreams – for example children may tell us what they want to be when they grow up, and those of us (like me) who are not so young often mention our “bucket list”. For the purposes of this article, we will define dreams as: A cherished ambition or ideal.
Where do dreams come from? It’s not entirely clear, but they come from deep within us, and in many ways our dreams define us both as individuals and as a species. It is unlikely that the rest of the animal kingdom aspires to be more than they are. Humans, as a species, do not accept the limits of nature. For example, we want to go faster, further, deeper, and higher. So, we invent cars, trains, submarines, and spacecraft. As our dreams go a long way toward defining us as individuals, we must take great care to ensure that our dreams are totally authentic and not imposed by society, our culture, our parents, our spouses… Our dreams are not only aspirational, they are also inspirational. For example, Dr Martin Luther King Jr’s most famous speech was “I Have a Dream”. Please note he did not say, I have a goal or a plan. Dreams are often spoken about negatively; people often urge us to be realistic. For example, this quote (often used by coaches) “A goal without a plan, is just a wish or a dream”. This quote is accurate; however, I take exception to the word JUST. I submit that dreams are our primary motivating forces – without dreams, we would have no use for goals or plans.
I encourage all of us to:
- Dream Big and Boldly
- Dream with Passion
- Don’t be afraid of your Dreams
- Treat your Dreams as you would treat sacred scripture, revere them, follow them, return to them for inspiration.
What is the difference between a dream and a goal? It is often said that “a goal is a dream with a deadline”. As we shall soon see, this definition is very close to the truth. In order to truly be a Goal – goals must be SMART – SMART is an acronym for :
Aligned with your values
For example, losing weight is not a SMART goal – losing 10 pounds in the next 2 months is a Smart goal.
The Power of Goals:
Harvard Business School Students- upon entering the program were asked about their goals.
- 3% had clear written goals
- 13% had goals, not written
- 84% expressed no goals.
10 years later, the 3% with clear written goals, were earning 10 times the income of the other 97% combined.
At this juncture, we grasp the importance of Dreams and we understand how to convert our dream(s) into a SMART goal. The next step is to create an action plan. There is no template for an action plan, as our goals are very different across different areas of life… But all action plans are step by step written documents. An action plan creates and lists sub-goals, and sets a deadline for each step in the process. For example, when writing a term paper, you will set a deadline for deciding on a subject, and another deadline for completing your research, and an additional deadline for completing an outline, and a deadline for completing a rough draft of the first topic…
Upon completing your action plan, it is time to take action. Nothing will be achieved until we roll up our sleeves and take action.
Essential Components for success:
- Positive mindset – many experts feel that attitude or mindset is 85% to 90% of success. Overcoming fear is key – we all go through life with fears, not feeling good enough, facing imposter syndrome… People who achieve their dreams also suffer from fear, but they find a way to fight through it. “Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is the willingness to act in spite of our fears” (Mark Twain). A positive mindset may not guarantee success, but a negative mindset will surely ensure failure.
- Persistence – there will be obstacles and setbacks – you will need to keep working, redouble your efforts, and stay the course to achieve your dreams.
- Hard work – I can’t stress this enough – hard work is a must for making your dreams come true. “With hard work and dedication, you can achieve anything. With hard work and dedication, anything is possible. I’ve learned that anything in life worth having comes from patience and hard work. Focused, hard work is the real key to success” (John Carmack).
When you create an action plan, you will not be able to predict what will not go as planned, but it is certain that something(s) will not go as planned. Be open and flexible to reviewing your plans when necessary. Compare your results to your original projections, make changes in the areas that you believe are impeding your results. Revising your plans is not an admission of defeat – making changes to aspects of our businesses and lives is the way we evolve and grow. On a regular basis, ask yourself this question: Is there anything in your life that, knowing what you now know, you would not get into again today if you had it to do over. If there is, revise your plan immediately and change or stop your unproductive activities.
“A Dream written down with a date becomes a goal.
A Goal broken down steps becomes a plan.
A Plan backed by action (a positive mindset, persistence, and hard work) makes your dreams come true.” (Greg S. Reid)
Who needs a Coach?
Do we need a coach in order to make our dreams come true? Has every famous inventor, business person, actor, writer, great athlete… had a coach? Clearly no. But many of the best and brightest do have coaches – for example.
- Oprah Winfrey
- Leonardo DiCaprio
- Roger Federer
- Serena Williams
- Hugh Jackman
- Bill Gates
Virtually every famous athlete and every famous performer has a coach !
Eric Schmidt is the former CEO of Google, here are his words on coaching: When I started at Google in late 2001, John Doerr, one of our early investors, called me to say, “Bill works with our companies. He’s good at being a coach and mentor. “I remember saying, “I don’t really need a coach. I’ve been an experienced CEO for many years. I’m not a kid.” John pushed for it: “Tennis players have coaches, and maybe you need a coach, too.” Bill came over to talk to me, Larry Page and Sergey Brin. Once you met Bill, you knew you wanted him to help. Eric Schmidt believes that everyone needs a coach. Bill Gate agrees: “Everyone needs a coach. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a basketball player, a tennis player, a gymnast, or a bridge player.”
I like to use the analogy of having of deciding whether to use a trainer at a gym. We all know something about how to get into shape, and if we do not, books, videos and other information are readily available. Nevertheless, most of us get in shape better and faster using a trainer. Similarly, coaches help us for many of the same reasons, accountability, expertise, an outside objective point of view, someone who cares, listens to us, and helps us reach better decisions We may not need a trainer or a coach but the vast majority of people, including the very best and brightest, do better with a coaches help.
If you have dreams and you would like help making your dreams come true, please contact me. I will provide a complimentary consult, and together we will decide if we are a good fit. I have helped hundreds of other people “make their dreams come true” – I am confident that I can help you.